NIce Guys Behaviors to Avoid

Here’s something you may not know about us humans: we’re wired to
attach more weight to negative information about someone than we do to positive
info.
That’s why you can be having a great conversation with someone, and
then all of a sudden you change your mind about them when they tell you in all
seriousness that they were captured by a UFO.
It doesn’t matter that for the past half hour the person was being smart
and witty... now you mentally stamp their file with big bold red letters that say
“WEIRDO” based on the UFO thing.
So, since one wrong move can shoot down 100 good ones, it’s crucial to
avoid negative behaviors that are characteristic of low status males, or betas, if
you don't want women to treat you like crap and lead you on. These beta
characteristics to avoid are:

1) Seeking approval by ending sentences with, “isn’t it” or
“right”? These questions tacked onto the end of sentences
make you sound weak willed, particularly if your vocal pitch
rises. Right?

2) Trying to dominate. Instead, just do it. Have a stronger
psychological reality and mindset than anyone else.
Assume people are there to follow you, because you are the
shit. Know, as an article of faith, that you can ask people
politely to do what you want them to do, rather than bossing
them around. (It’s interesting to observe military generals,
who, despite what you see in movies such as Patton, are
usually polite when they get subordinates to do things.)

3) Being belligerent, either with women or with other men.
The alpha male is able to stay calm under pressure and walk
away when he needs to. Starting a fight is a sign that you’re
a man with low status. It also goes without saying that
fighting in order to gain the affections of a woman is the
ultimate form of approval seeking, which lowers your
attractiveness. With that said, however, if some guy violates
your boundaries and starts shit with you (like let's say you
get bullied), there are occasions when you must stand up for
yourself.

4) Following the other person’s agenda and talking about
what they want to discuss, even if you find it boring.
Remember my story of sitting for two hours with the girl I
loved, listening to her tale of woe about the druggie
bartender? Bad move. The alpha male only talks about
what he wants to. Watch any alpha male in action (e.g.,
CEOs and politicians) and you will observe this
phenomenon. When an alpha male is bored, he doesn’t
hide his disinterest. So don’t give people your attention until
they’ve earned it.

5) Trying to one-up people and prove that you’re smarter
than the person you’re talking to. When you look at
leaders in corporate boardrooms or governor’s mansions,
you find that the best leaders are secure enough in
themselves that they can listen to those who are more expert
than they are. An old CEO truism is that you don’t have to
be smart, you just have to hire smart people.

6) Checking out every pretty girl you see. A man who’s
getting laid left and right doesn’t have time for this, so you
shouldn’t, either. As you stop being impressed by the hot
bodies around you, watch the difference in reactions that you
get from women. Watch how they start checking you out
and wanting to prove themselves to you.
Alpha males assume the mantle of leadership as their birthright and act as
if they are a natural leader. They don’t care much about what others think. They
do their own thing and don’t seek approval.
However, at the same time, they also offer a benefit--whether it’s social
status, excitement, or stimulating conversation--to those who follow them.
People submit to the alpha’s reality because they want to (since alpha
males talk about interesting topics) or because everyone else is paying attention
to the alpha male.
And people—especially women--pay attention because the alpha male
conversation style is interesting. Why? Easy--because he talks about
fascinating things. Thus, other people are sucked into his reality, so as a
consequence they find them interesting too.
So how do you get interesting stuff to talk about? It’s simple: you have an
exciting, well-balanced life. If you do that, you will naturally exude attractiveness
to women. Keep busy with work, your social life, activities, and selfimprovement.
Don’t just sit around playing video games. Go skydiving, take
dance lessons, call an old friend and hang out with them. When your life is fun
and interesting, you have tons of things to talk about with women.
And when you talk to a woman, lead the conversation. Captivate her
attention.

As you work on your behaviors, you will also work on adopting the mindset
of an alpha male. The first thing I notice that all alpha males have in common is
that they assume people will follow their lead. They’re not bossy because they
don’t need to be—they have the confidence that comes with knowing people will
follow.
Bossiness can quickly backfire because few people like to be ordered
around. Do your thing and be passionate about it and people will be drawn into
your reality. Just act as if people will follow you, believe that they will, and you’ll
find that what you believe will become reality.
This brings up an important point. Don’t observe reality and then adjust
yourself to it.
Instead, create your own reality. This means that you should act as if
events are the way you would like them to be.
Act as if you are a catch for any woman. Act as if pussy is no big deal to
you, since it’s not a big deal to men who get laid all the time. (Although you may
not currently have much sex, if any, you still want to model the mindset of men
who do.) Act as if all your manly desires are perfectly natural. You have no
reason to apologize for or cover up your sex drive the way nice guys do!
Act as if you’re not affected that much by what a woman thinks, since what
you think is a lot more important. Believe it or not, women will respect you a lot
more for this.
Lots of guys get caught up in the trap of constantly wondering what a
woman is thinking. “Gee, when she rubs her glass in response to me telling her
a joke, does that mean she likes me?” Quit worrying!
Instead just realize that there’s a horny, primal woman within her who
wants to have mad, passionate sex with you. Just relax. Be an attractive guy,
and give her a chance to become attracted to you. If she doesn’t accept the gift
of your companionship, then that’s her loss.
Be optimistic. Ever notice how the best athletes such as Deion Sanders,
Michael Jordan, and Tiger Woods know that they will do well? Success comes
from confidence. Assume you will succeed, and your attitude will increase the
odds that you will. Assume that you are irresistible to women.
Be powerful and resolute. But at the same time, be natural and fun. Be a
bit of a bad boy, but don’t be a jerk. Have a devilish smile on your face if you
want. You’re an exciting man and women should want you.
Do what you please in life. Be true to your emotions. If you don’t want to
do something, then don’t. Be honest with yourself. Be your own man.
What does this mean? If you want to give a homeless man some change,
then do it. If you want to help an old lady across the street, then go for it. If you
want to open doors for your girlfriend, do it. Just don’t feel like you have to do
any of those things because it’s expected of you. Do things because you want to
do them.
In the end, when you become an alpha male, the man who is true to
himself, you will experience the happiest time of your life. Getting laid will just be
an aftereffect. How’s THAT for a side benefit?